The Christian and Personality Discernment
The Christian and Personality Discernment

The Christian and Personality Discernment

Have you ever found yourself reacting negatively to other people for little or no reason? Sometimes it manifests as “I don’t like her vibe” “I think he has a problem with me” etc.

Whenever you have a problem living with people, you may want to check whether it is because of their attitude or because you are simply reacting to a personality difference.

This truth remains evident – All men cannot be the same; people must come in distinct packages.

Do a quick check. Are you unhappy with people because they’re so evil or because they’re not like you would want, and you think that your way is best for them?

Do you have a problem with people because they’re so bad or because they have not adjusted to your idea of how to behave?

Take for example, an outspoken/outgoing person can yet be very humble while his reserved counterpart may be very arrogant. Still, there may be another outgoing person who is very arrogant and his reserved friend remains humble.

A lot of persons may be offended at you, not necessarily for any wrongdoing but for doing the right things in a different way – out of their little box.

Humans have a way of creating a box in their minds in which everyone who will be acceptable to them must fit. Church denominations have this box. Persons have this box. Pastors have this box. Organizations have it; Teachers have it. Parents have it; CEOs have it.
You have it!
Ladies have their dream-husband-box
Men have their dream-wife-box.

Everybody seems to travel around life carrying their own box of who to accept or reject or condone. We all have that little box, and when persons fit into it perfectly, we call it an affection at first sight.

But seeing men from God’s perspective is an advantage: the believer’s advantage. You can see beyond your sentiments and into the treasure inside individuals. You can have an accommodation for the differences in people’s personalities so that each relationship can be maximally advantageous.

Seeing men from God’s perspective is an advantage. You can see beyond your sentiments into the treasure inside humanss. You can accommodate the differences in people, such that each relationship can be maximally advantageous. Click To Tweet

You can never get the best of anyone by squeezing them into your own box, but by creating a box suitable for them.
…therefore know we no man after the flesh… 2Corinthians 5:16

Who would have known that the man walking the streets of Galilee with his disciples; always holding a different thought from the society; is the Messiah?

Love helps us to make allowance; not only for people’s offenses, but also for their personalities, because their personality difference is not a wrongdoing.

Love helps us to make allowance; not only for people’s offenses, but also for their personalities; because their personality difference is not a wrongdoing. Click To Tweet

This is not about right or wrong behavior but about differences in personality.

God’s word has the inherent ability to change our lives, our unhealthy mindsets, character flaws, bad speech and whatever we lack in love walk. Often, we also have the gift of friends who hold us to the standard of right living; however personality is the core of a man’s existence; every man must do the job to discover and to preserve their personality.

God’s word has the inherent ability to change our lives, unhealthy mindsets, character flaws, bad speech and whatever we lack in love walk. Click To Tweet

Drawing the Line

There is a thin line between being yourself and being stubborn. Anger is not anyone’s personality; neither is depression, lousiness, bad speech, rudeness, insecurity. These are character flaws that must be deliberately worked upon.

You may ask ” But hey, how do I know my true personality?”

The more you know Christ; the more you know yourself. No man knows himself by thinking about himself.
If you want to really know your true distinct personality; learn Christ more and more.

As a believer, the more you know Christ; the more you know yourself. No man knows his true self by just thinking about himself. If you want to really know your true distinct personality; learn Christ more and more. Click To Tweet
Muyiwa Nafiu is a Pastor and worship leader with a passion for the preaching of the gospel. He takes every opportunity to teach God’s word.
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